My late rising New Year’s resolution is kindness. Be kind, show kindness, kind, kind, kind.
It’s everywhere – the new catch phrase to counteract narcissism generated in our age of the selfie. Me me me it’s all about me, verses Be kind to one another. I should have been an anthropologist or psychologist instead of a mother. (Same thing, I hear you say? Need one as a mother, I hear you say?)
This woman is fabulous – take the 10 minutes to watch Orlay Wahba speak on kindness, it will change your life. http://blog.ted.com/the-magic-of-kindness-orly-wahba-at-ted2013/ She nails why kindness is essential and exactly how it makes the world a better place.
So I’m going to be kind. I’ve already started.
I was really kind yesterday when my toddler screamed his way out of swim school, all the way to the car, screamed when I asked him to get in the car, then screamed about me locking him out of the car (never leave a child unattended inside a car), then continued his little screaming argument all the way home.
He is still alive. See? Kindness.
Part of kindness is that it brings you to noticing others. For example, like last night. My husband must have been practising kindness because when he was putting the rubbish bins out, he noticed the next-door neighbour nicking our greens bin from the verge. “Hey, isn’t that ours?” came kindly out of Happy Husband’s mouth, to which Naughty Neighbour replied, “oh just taking it to put our palm fronds in”. Happy Husband practiced further kindness by not saying anything more – perhaps because his mouth hung open in disbelief but hey, the bin was theirs.
Currently, I am practising kindness with great fervour. Along with noticing, being kind also generates gratitude. As I write this I am looking out my window at the pool company (here is a description of them), draining thousands of litres of water-slash-money down the plughole, and jackhammering big chunks out of the concrete walls of our brand new pool. But hey – I am super grateful that we had the pool for the kids for Christmas, because we can’t afford to eat anymore let alone buy something as frivolous as Christmas presents. And I am tremendously grateful to the actual people who work for the pool company, because now when I turn on the news Donald Trump really truly looks like a super nice guy to me. Really, he does incredibly honourable work, don’t you think?
So, after a successful week of practising great kindness, I’m going to celebrate. Here is a selfie of me with my big glass of kindness to myself. But we all know it’s not all about me…