“You’re so lucky”.
Nothing gets up my nose and tweaks on my most sensitive nose hairs more than these words.
What I hear is: “You’re so lucky not to have to work hard; to have always had everything fall in your lap; to have been born with “PERFECT” stamped on the birth certificate. And, you get to watch Netflix all day – what’s happening in Orange is the New Black by the way?”
To begin with I wouldn’t know, because orange will never be the new black says this former fashion editor (now you’re going to tell me that’s the whole point of the show…)
These are the two jobs I’m holding down at the moment, which I do work hard in:
Yes, I can see why you think I’m lucky – the pay is amazing, and the hours, so user friendly… And to top it all off, my work colleague (Master Fourth and Final – sent to this earth to make sure I never feel the sudden urge to fall pregnant again) is compliant and self-servicing at age Terrible Two.
But I jest. Of course I’m lucky – I see it as blessed. Aren’t you?
We are not a girl I once met, who happened to be born in Kenya and was off to get circumcised at 14 years old.
And you are not Malala Yousafzai; who got the left side of her face blown off by the Taliban at age 14 because she wanted her neighbours and girlfriends to go to school.
We are not expectant parents living in the Golden Triangle, where we know for certain our child will be forced to hold a gun and shoot people by the age of 7 years-old.
We are not living in poverty and forced to sell a child to save her sister.
We are living free of heinous fatal disease, and, hopefully we are not the one left after it’s path of destruction.
We have food to eat.
We can marry who we want.
We have the ability to keep our kids, and ourselves, safe.
We have a medical system. Full stop.
The weird thing is, I’m sure if we sat down and talked with these people whom have all the reason not to feel lucky, they would be able to count out their blessings to us.
We live in a society where we can ask questions, get answers and make a change if needs be.
Quite simply, we have a future with things in it to look forward to. If we choose.
We began lucky.
The rest we could see as choice.